"The explorer sat in a new island:
I therefore, claim this land for myself!
He was first, he was THE first one. He took the lead and now owns that place. If someone else comes (The second) they must take that place, overthrow him, overrule the first one, being better.
That's what you have to do if you're not first.
If you are the first one on something, you will always have a lead. After all, if you were one of the first early adopters of bitcoin, you probably would have been rich person right now. But you aren't, you didn't, you weren't first, you weren't with the firsts.
If you had recorded yourself screaming playing horror videos in 2009 you would have been the Pewdiepie of today, since you came first. But you didn't, and you can't claim that spot anymore, since it's taken.
Innovating, taking the lead, doing something that someone else hasn't done yet or even being the first person someone else met, do have a huge importance in life.
You maye be better than X person, but that X person came first and now owns that place. You may be better influence for X person, but Y person came first and now takes that place.
You may have the same or more qualities than certain ppl, but they came first, they have the lead, and you can't take it anymore. They rule and you don't, you can't aim for the same.
You found something perfect, but someone else took it before you, and now you can't do anything.
All because they had the lead, they have the lead, and they will have the lead. Can you overtake a lead? Sometimes...
It highly depends on what and how. Most of the times, you can't, or won't be able to, or are unable to, or anything, and the rest of the time you can, but you will just end up doing stuff you will regret later.
Or just do "the end justify the means" and go wild. Everything goes, sometimes.
Key point, even if you're better, they came first, end of discussion. Going further will just cause problems. Don't try to fix something that is not broken, someday, somehow you will be noticed... hopefully.