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So, found a trend lately of what happens when 2 shy pals meet. Something that I often relate to, so I'll just discuss about it.


So some shy person approachs another shy person... and nothing happens. One party might just try to get closer to the other person, but since the other is shy or antisocial, it doesn't work very well. And well, since the other party ALSO is in the same spot, they might just give up and stay silent.

Sounds... stupid, isn't it? They both want more friends yet they can't get over their own problems to approach each other. One party MUST have the higher hand on what they want (Friends or w/e). Which means that one party must get out of their zone of comfort (They're shy or anything in either case!) to attempt something with someone else that is like 'em.

We don't chose to be like that, do we? Who really wants to be an awkward person that fails to start up chats or keep up with convs? Pretty sure we all want to improve.

And we do (I do, at least). Problem lies in that those that "Are social" or "Extrovert" already have their group of friends and most of the time don't even care to do a little extra effort in helping someone that can't relate to them 100%. After all, I can see in their mind "Well that guy never starts up a chat with me and just feel awkward to talk to, why bother?".

Why bother? Because you don't know if that little person is way better than "those pals you hang out and do drugs or get drunk often". From what I've seen, those that are shy or reserved more often than not have a bigger heart than those that go around trolling or being meanie but "have more friends" because 'they're cool'

Yes there are f*cked up persons everywhere, but you're less likely to find a sociopath or creepy person in someone that's shy (Doesn't mean that there are not!).
As long as you 'can find out' if that person you're talking to "is trustable" there aren't much things you need to worry about, but that you need to do a little more effort to get in touch with 'em.

Most of the time pay off better indeed, as those persons are more likely to stick to you as friends or anything else than just those "Random guys that have hundreds upon hundreds of friends".

But you need to work towards that goal! Sadly, most ppl just don't want to "work for a friendship", and chose easy stuff; like those that "are easy going and easy to stick to" (But often they go as fast as they come, mind you)


Anyways this doesn't solve the original issue, how do 2 shy ppl that share the same feelings end up being friends or close?

It all depends on the will of both parties tho, if one party just tries and tries and tries and fails to get closer, they will give up, eventually at least. After all, is it worth for someone that already have problems to socialize to spend all their bloody efforts in someone that might just as well ditch them?

If I notice someone that wants to get close to me, I accept them. I try to talk to them back, I pay attention. But it's only if I know they're interested. Otherwise I'm bound to be left in a spot where they can use me, if I am not careful. And I've been used a lot!

All in all, I believe it's possible for 2 shy pals to get closer together. It's totally on the will of the parties, heh.

Last questions would be if you want someone you know you can rely on, or someone you don't know you can rely on.

That's all for today.

~Sjru
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Just a lonely dragon that studies music and sound, works in Steamrep and made a stupidly big brony group on Steam.

I usually get used for other's agenda and I'm really shy to start chats.


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:iconjohntugsy:
johntugsy Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2014
*poke* .3.
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2014
*squeak* o3o 
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johntugsy Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2014
*gasp* .o. *poke poke poke*
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2014
*squeeee* eeee >o< 
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VoraciousAmphy96 Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2014  Student General Artist
Hello o3o
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2014
*poeksnose*
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VoraciousAmphy96 Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2014  Student General Artist
*rubs nose and snorts*
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2014
Merrr >o< 
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2014
rwar!!!!
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VoraciousAmphy96 Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2014  Student General Artist
Rawr :3

How are you on this fine day :3
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 11, 2014
well didn't know the day was fine, It can be a refined day, or a corrupted day ummm.
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For asking the question, I guess okaaay???  Ijust feel alone lmao 
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ProfessionalPuppy Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2014
THankie for the watch!! (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*:・゚✧ Have some magic!
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2014
haha np ^^ 
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Saria4 Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
thanks for the watch :o, though what for may i ask? your drawings are on a total diff level to mine >-<
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 5, 2014
haha I don't draw ^^ I just buy art mostly 
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Saria4 Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
oh okays oco
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2014
Yap c= 
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Riolulover1 Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thanks for the llama!
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Sjru Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2014
np
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VoraciousAmphy96 Featured By Owner Sep 4, 2014  Student General Artist
Hello :)

I told one of my IRL friends about you, and they seemed pretty interested about you XD
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