[Blog] Do lies pay a huge role in your social life

There are different type of lies; wikipedia list most of 'em but those that I find most important are the white lies and bad fatih lies, those made with bad intent.

Basically we use white lies to protect, to help, for good, etc... they're "not bad" unless you're the kind of "hurr durr lying is bad nonethelss sin sin" blabla.
In any case, these kind of lies are okay, for the most part. It's nice to protect others, tho sometimes you end up making the lie bigger and start to deceive others.

Hiding "big things" related to you or others, in the long term, will just bring problems. Your lie will eventually grow bigger, and bigger, get more ppl involved to the point that, even if you did with good intention, it will no longer be seen as a white lie but rather as something deceving or malicious to others.

When you reach such point, you always question "Ummm should I actually tell the truth, or just keep going to see what happens?"
Depending on the situation, you might either decide to "Fuck it and tell the truth" or just "keep hiding it hoping that it doesn't blow up"

You might think "Well if I tell the truth, I will hurt others", while in reality, it could be quite the oppositve, you make otherss believe deeply on your lie, until it's no longer possible to hide it, and then it causes more harm that it could have possibly happened if you stepped down from your lie at early stages.

In the long term, you not only lies others, friends, family, even ppl that believe or deem you close, most importantly, you lie to yourself.

Now think about this, if you enjoy keeping long term lies to see what is the effect on others, how does that speak about yourself? "Oh but I'd love to see how long they believe in my side of the story and how many fall in my trap" blabla.
That... is not good, isn't it?

"Ahh but I don't give a damn, lolool, if they make trouble for me lying I don't care!". Yes, one can say "Ahh fuck everyone else, I have what I want"  what kind of person does that make you?

While for some, you will be a hero because they don't know you, for others you will be seen differently, someone that likes to lie, to manipulate the truth for their own behalf.
Again, yes you can "not care" but ultimately, not caring about others and just acting like nothing ever happens because of your actions will eventually backfire.

In all reality, 'suppressing feelings' do work, yes. One can be a jerk to certain ppl and be an angel with others and 'do fine'. Because after all, there are no consecuences, right?
"If they try to come up with what I did I will play the victim and everyone will blame 'em waaa". I don't know, reason there's so much drama in the fandom is basically because this kind of stuff happens ALL the time, and people simply don't care.
And the real victims eventually get tired of the BS and step up, creating more drama and the others play like if nothing happened etc... White knights arise and there's a huge mess that does no good.

Instead of fixing the things like it should be, instead of telling the truth, apologising, realising mistakes, making sure to not make them again, most ppl in the fandom or some ppl in general chose the "Easy path" because they think the "easy path" is the one that brings the less trouble for everyone.

And that is NOT always the truth. When you do harm, you do harm. When you do something bad, you do something bad and the only thing you can do is to try to help those that were hurt by your actions and try to solve them.

Yes, of course, most of the time those that were hurt by one's action don't react positively from a "change of heart" by the other party. (Well, furries duh), society in general most of the time want some kind of 'punishment' for bad deeds and, those that do the bad deeds or bad actions naturally try to avoid 'em.
Yeah, how many times you've seen a burglar to come back to the guy he stole stuff from and give back the things? Ehhh... not many lol.

If they intend to make harm in the first place they won't like try to fix it the right way.

But online? You can do something about emotional stuff and things that CAN be fixed and CAN be sorted out.

"Ahhh but what's the point of apologising, realising my mistake, and deal with the issue face to face, while I can just ignore that it never happened?" True, but you want to be a good person or a bad person?

Do you want to grow up? Or just be "the bad guy"?

Have you ever thought that a little acknowledgment of your own mistakes can solve issues, make bonds or strengthen them and avoid future conflicts?  Even if facing the problem brings a little situation of tension that you want to avoid, in the long term, for eveyrone's good, solving the problem is better than just allowing it to grow to dangerous levels.

If you ever have done something bad to someone, bad acts, bad deeds, something that you suspect might have hurt others and you know it, then think first if it could be better to face the issue and apologise, not just "move on and ignore like nothing ever happened" but to realise your own mistakes and learn about them.

Ultimately, is up to you if you want to be regarded as a "jerk, bad person" to some ppl.

That's all

~Sjru